God is love and He sent His one and only Son to die for you because He loves you.
Okay, that’s something you already know and it’s too obvious that the love you’re actually referring to is a love from a person, much more, from a significant other.
Actually, it’s a question that has bothered me for quite a long time but I realized that it should not.
I found myself falling in love with guys before whose faith and beliefs are not aligned with mine, and many of the things that happened during the dating stage were not what the Bible would refer to as love.
And what is love again? It is patient. It is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. It always hopes, always trusts, always perseveres. It does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
I realized that it was never a question of “Can this person really love me?” but a matter of “Does this person really love me?”
And as the Bible also says, the tree is known by its fruit. Does how the Bible define love reflect in what this person is showing you?
I used to seek love from the wrong people and end up hurting again and again. And this has also contributed a lot to my depression, realizing how much I have failed to honor God in my life with all the dating and romance I have been through.
But God is a God of second chances. He is a God of hope. And He is a God who always gives good gifts to His children.
Remember that every good and perfect gift comes from above.
And those people who made you feel you’re unlovable, those are not the people for you. That man or woman who made you feel so bad about yourself because of your mental illness, because of your being very emotional, because of your past and shortcomings, that is not the right one for you.
Yes, you should still share Jesus’ love to these people because His love should cover everyone, but don’t ever expect that someday they will accept and love you.
Present Christ to them but don’t run after them to seek for their love or else that would destroy you.
And if destroys you, that is not love, but a mere illusion that if you made them FEEL loved, they will love you back.
God has the best in store. Trust His timing. It is better to be alone for now than to have someone who cannot understand you, especially at your lows, at your worst, and will only give you pain.
A person who loves does not tolerate the bad but does everything to help his or her beloved.
Allow yourself to heal, to recover, to be filled by His love again until it overflows. In His time, if He wills it, He will send someone who will make you realize that you are lovable. And no kind of sickness shall ever dictate that you’re not.